Stand Up for the ARTS and Thank You iSteve!

Well... this week, I'm on a soapbox.  It's not often that I get on one.. but when I do.. WHEW!    Where shall I start... first, I guess the story of "as you grow older, the more like your parents you become is coming true."  I had my first glimpse of realizing I may be more like my mother than I thought or knew.

This past week, controversy began brewing in my hometown.   We are very fortunate to live in a small town (college town) that is known on a national scale for writers (Faulkner, Grisham, Brown to name a few...), painters, potters, artists, and more.  Yes.. the ARTS are alive and well in Oxford, Mississippi.

Yet, this week our local board of supervisors voted 3-2 to revoke a mere $15,000 to one of the groups who supports the community with art programs.  YAC (Yoknapatawpha Arts Council).  The Arts Council is the official arts agency for Oxford and Lafayette County, with one full-time staff member, a twelve member Board of Directors, and volunteers working to transform the creative works of artists, performers, musicians, and writers into programs that create jobs, attract tourists, and enrich our community. How effective is the arts council? In 2009 the arts council working with local artists fostered over 315 days of art programs. These programs ranged from gallery exhibits, live music, performing arts, and special events including free dance lessons for all ages, free arts classes, and a writer’s series that featured nationally recognized authors.

So, as you're reading this, you're probably saying... that's wonderful what the council does for your community.  Well, you're right... it is wonderful, yet our supervisors voted to revoke funding due to mis-information regarding an art show that included partial nudity.   The supervisors did not have all of the information yet, they voted anyway.   They had heard complaints from 1 or 2, maybe 5 or 6 that the art show contained some partial nudity and was going to be held at the Powerhouse, which is home to YAC.   Now... because of the voices of a few... all of a sudden this single show is the reason for every good thing that the art council does to not get funding.  The sad part... is that if the supervisors had TABLED the vote until they could verify their concerns instead of voting without all of the information, they would have found out the following:  No Council funds were used for the art exhibit, which was moved to a nearby location on private property in a tent after a handful of community members expressed concern that the show, “Scratch and Sniff” was too racy to be held at the Powerhouse.  


The community was in an outrage over the vote and groups were formed to help support.  I guess the one good thing that came out of it is that now YAC is planning a fundraiser to help so that they don't have to rely on government funding so much, but even with that said... the funding should not have been revoked in the first place.  


I am sure that the supervisors who voted to revoke the $15,000 had a barrage of emails and phone calls  The voices of many were loud and clear. What really had me upset is that this local board could be influenced by 1 or 2, 5 or 6... instead of reaching out to the entire community that they represent.   How can you vote on something that obviously you don't have all the facts?   


 (Well... long story short.... 2 of the 3 who voted against, will not be returning to office in January and the 3rd one has had a change of heart and has said that he asked for the funding issue to be placed back on the agenda in November and he will change his vote.)   Advice for the newly elected - please get ALL the information you need to make an insightful vote against something that impacts the community.   Do not vote unless you can do so with having all of the facts.   So, for now, it appears that the controversy will be averted by a "re-do" of the vote, but the question that lingers in my mind is how many votes have happened that the local board didn't have all the information and yet... they cast a vote aye or nay.   As an elected official, you have the responsibility to represent your district, community and city with the best interests, therefore, in order to do so... know what it is you are voting for or against.   


So... how does this tale of controversy lead up to the fact that the older I get, the more like my mother... well, those of you who were blessed to know her... know that she loved nothing better than to voice her  opinion against the politicians and debate every issue she disagreed, yet many, called her their friend.   I have had many tell me she helped them more than she would ever know.  Why?  Because she stood up for what she believed in... and fought for what was right.  My single voice might not make a difference, but it makes me proud to know that I voiced it out loud for others to know where my support was on this particular issue.   Maybe.... I will start tuning in to all of the supervisor meetings and see exactly what they are doing in there.   Maybe... we should all do that.  


On another note... The world is feeling quite a loss with the passing of Steve Jobs.  I am trying to get my arms around my own thoughts about the impact that this single man has had on our society.   Even as I sit here typing.... on  yes, an Apple Macbook Pro.... listening to itunes...... answering my iphone..... and knowing that I'll pick up my ipad... at any given moment... it's hard not to try and grasp it.

Jobs will leave a legacy for changing the world when his own beginnings were that of a struggle.  He was born out of wedlock, put up for adoption, bribed in the 4th grade to "learn" with $5 and candy, and used a passion for something he loved - electronics to change the world as we know it.   Jobs shared his passion and intensity with the world, yet at the end of the day, he would have said... I am just a man.   It will be a long time before another CEO, or individual has the impact that he has had on our society.   He's probably up in heaven creating yet another app...God Bless.




"You can 't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life." 

"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”

Steve Jobs, Stanford Commencement Address, June 2005

Lessons Learned the Hard Way

Fall has arrived!  Cooler temperatures seem to be just around the corner, leaves will begin changing into bursting hues of orange and red,  providing beauty all around.   I have to say, that it truly is my favorite time of year.  Maybe it's that with Fall, comes football, world series and the holidays that I love the most.  It's hard to believe it's already October and that we'll soon be thinking about Thanksgiving and even Christmas.  (Yes... some stores are already thinking Christmas.)  (Don't get me started on that rant!)  With this blog, I found myself realizing that in a few days, I will have survived another year.   I guess as we all turn another year older, we try to remember where the years have gone and what life lessons we learned along the way.   Seems the older you get, the more like one of your parents you become... or so I have been told recently.    For me, my lessons learned the hard way... are many.   You'd think that along with these new wrinkles I'm discovering,  I wouldn't make the same mistakes twice.    

So... in all my years of wisdom, what lessons have I learned the hard way.  Well, for starters... things always happen for a reason and only you can find a meaning within those things.   It goes back to the whole half empty/half full attitude.   Say... someone loses their job... one person might use that as an opportunity to do something they've always wanted to do with a new career while another might sink into despair and complain about the world doing them wrong.   I've said this many times before... your attitude truly is the foundation to your happiness.   

The grass isn't always greener.   Most of us have envisioned at one time or another when we were in a bad situation whether it was a job or relationship, that if we could only get out... my how different things would be, only to find that the grass wasn't greener on the other side.  

Don't worry about the things we can't control.   I am a worrier.  I worry about everything and as I have gotten older... it has just gotten worse.  Reacting is one of the things that I do best... and not always in a good way.   Trying to remember that the only person that I can control is myself and my reaction to others has helped me to keep my temper down to a low simmer in a lot of situations.    

Pick your battles.  Personal or professional, this is probably my hardest lesson to learn and I am still learning it.   We have all been in situations where we allowed something small to send us over the edge that created a bigger battle than necessary.   In my career, I've learned to set boundaries.   I've learned when to draw the line because people will only treat you the way you allow them to.  In my personal life, I'm still learning the lesson.  I'm hardheaded and one of those that feels you have to fight it out in order for the balance of the universe to get back on its axis.   Right or wrong, it's a hard lesson that I keep learning over and over.  (Surely, one day, I'll learn...).   

Happiness shouldn't be tied to success.   This is another one that really challenges me.   Success equates to a better being, happier person and all around better attitude.  As I've grown professionally, I realize that my failures were just as much a part of helping me become the person I have as my successes.  The failures are more important.   We all need to have the mindset that sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't.  We don't need to let the times they don't dictate our well being.

You don't pick your family or the person you love.  You do pick your friends.   There is nothing that brings me greater joy than my Clampett family and the friendships that I cherish.    "A friend is a gift you give yourself" and "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out" are two of my favorite quotes.  

Be thankful.  This isn't necessarily a lesson learned the hard way, its one that I think most people forget or take for granted.   I don't take for granted.  I have been extremely blessed.  Even when I feel like my world is crumbling and I'm being sucked into the black hole of darkness, taking a few moments and reminding myself of all the things that I have to be thankful for usually helps put things back into perspective.  

Lessons learned the hard way are never easy especially when they unintentionally or intentionally hurt you or another person.   We've all been through them. We've all learned from them and we've all vowed not to make the same mistakes twice.  In most cases, I'd like to think I've done just that, but I know that there are several areas where my weaknesses come through and I haven't completely learned that life lesson yet.  

So... as Fall continues to approach with all it's glory, I am thankful that I have made it another year.  I'm thankful for all of life's lessons I've learned the hard way.   Somehow, they've helped me become the person I am today.   

As I close out my first post of October... I will leave you to ponder the following.... (see growing older makes you so much wiser, doesn't it?) 

"Age should not have its face lifted, but it should rather teach the world to admire wrinkles as the etchings of experience and the firm line of character."  

"An old fox understands the trap".  - Proverb

I remember...

Where were you when the world stopped turning on that September day?  The words of Alan Jackson's song always tugs my heart, but the words ring true.   I remember.   I remember where I was, the emotions, the fear, the prayers... yes, I remember.  Do you?

Time has come and gone... yet, the memory of 9/11 lives on within every American.  Somehow it seems like yesterday.  For those who lost loved ones, for those who survived the tumbling of the towers, for those who fought to save them and for every American who watched as our nation came under fire... September 11, 2001 changed us and changed our nation.

We gained a new respect for our policemen, firemen, military and those who went above and beyond that day.  Strangers became friends and somehow, as a nation we each embraced the other and the sadness felt by one was felt by all.   As a country, we were emotional and we were hurting, yet, we leaned on each other and survived.   Questions still linger as to how this could have happened and there will always be different answers to those questions.

We made a vow that day... not to forget.   Memorials have been placed, ceremonies will happen from coast to coast, small to big.   We remember and we pay tribute, not just one year after, but every year after.  The names will be read of those who perished in the burning towers and those who lost their lives being a hero on that united flight.   They will all be remembered every year on 9/11.       

Are we safer today because of this tragedy?  Are we more aware as a country?   Can we let down our guard?  We can't afford to even think that it couldn't or wouldn't happen again.  We must remain diligent in our efforts to protect our nation at whatever the cost.   In May, elite American forces ... NAVY SEALS.. got the man who architected the 9/11 attacks.   For one brief moment, did you feel gratitude?  Did you feel relief?   Did you feel any emotion?  If you are an American, you definitely felt something.

As the anniversary of 9/11 is remember, we should all reflect.  We should stand together as one nation under God.  We should say a special thank you to those who serve in our armed forces - who fight for our freedoms so that we may have some sense of feeling secure in our homeland.  We should thank our policemen, firemen and all who work tirelessly to serve the citizens of this great nation.   We should listen to the words in Alan Jackson's song.

For me... I know Jesus and I talk to God.   I do believe that faith, hope and love are some good things He gave us and the greatest is love.   Most of all, I remember.

God Bless America.  

Simply Livin' - My Best of the Best!

I've had a lot of people ask me about my Simply Livin' list that is located on my blog page.   It's my personal "best of the best" list and each time I find a new gem or something that just blows me away, it gets added to my list.  Last week I was in a conversation with some really good friends and we were discussing this list of mine.   Many wanted to know how I choose what goes on my list, why it's there, and so on... so, this week, I thought I would expand on a few of my personal "Simply Livin'" things.  There's no way, I can blog about all of them or we'd really be here... all day.  So... I've selected some of the highlights and the way I look at it,  I guess it's a take off of Oprah's favorite things.... with the only difference being... I do not have that kind of power!  (Go figure... I mean, we are both from Mississippi, right?)

First, let me say thank you again to everyone who clicks and takes time to read,  each time I post a blog.  I just surpassed 2000 reads and I am thrilled!  When I decided to write this blog, I wasn't sure I would have 10 people who would be interested in what I might write about... so needless to say, I am quite humbled.  Also... saying a special thanks that my friends came out okay in the Northeast.  I was glued to the weather channel waiting on news.

Now... let's get to it.  Simply Livin!  First, the name for my list came about because as I was off on one of my adventures... I realized that life is so precious and short and that we need to grasp it.   Therefore, my list came to life... because I believe in "simply livin" day to day!

The first thing on my list is the nickname for my family.  "The Clampetts".   I enjoy every moment that I spend with them and there is never a dull moment.  Our nickname came about many years ago... on one of our first trips together... it was like a free-for-all.   You would have thought that we had never been anywhere in our entire lives.    So, if you haven't given your family a nick-name.. you should.  It will make for some great memories!

30-A and Seaside, Seaside, Seaside! - My favorite coastal community, affectionately known, as the Redneck Rivieria.   This unique community takes you back to yesteryear, when time seems to stop.  The beach, music on the lawn, bicycles as the primary mode of transportation, long walks, and just taking time to enjoy the simplicity life has to offer.   There are so many eclectic restaurants, shops and stops along 30-A, there is no way to name the all... it's just worth the trip to stop at every one of them!  (By the way... there was a Jim Carrey movie filmed there... do you know which one it was?)

There are several restaurants on my list and each for different reasons.   Bern's Steakhouse has the absolute dessert experience!  Chef Voila's in Atlantic City would be ranked as my all time favorite epicurean experience in regards to the atmosphere and food. (I really hope they are okay from the hurricane).   Wow!  Geno's Pizza in Chicago... absolutely, hands down the best pizza I have ever eaten!  Best Catfish.... right here locally, for me - Taylor Grocery.   It's been written up in Southern Living and it was also featured on one of the cooking channels.  Fish Bones in Orlando is one of my "must stops" everytime I go.   I love the Chilean Sea Bass there.   Best chain experience for me was at Capital Grille in Las Vegas.   Over the top service overlooking the strip!  New to my list... and definitely in my top 3 - STK at The Cosmopolitan in Las Vegas!  There is something surreal about eating fabulous food and listening to the 80's!  The Bombay Club in New Orleans has the best filet and one of the most extensive martini menu's known on the planet.  TraVigne out in St. Helena, CA is a must stop for their charming patio and their eclectic menu.    Okay... now that you're starving... , what are some of your favorites?

As I've traveled, I have really found some hidden gems across the US as far as hotels.   The Dana Hotel & Spa in Chicago tops the list.   (The showers are worth the price of admission!)   Hotel ZaZa is a new addition... hip, trendy and the next "IT" GIRL of hotel land!  In Las Vegas, The Cosmopolitan and Encore top my list of favorites!   My best luxury experience was at The Beverly Hills Hotel in Beverly Hills and my favorite resort would have to be the Ritz Carlton in St. Thomas.  (WOW!).  There are many other properties that have impressed me but sometimes its the overall experience that makes my list.  

Tag Hauer is my favorite watch!  I don't know how I ever survived before I was fortunate to own one, but I absolutely adore mine!

Simply Livin' doesn't get much better than traveling and obviously for me, DISNEYWORLD tops my list.    Hello Mickey!  It's a rule in my family... every 2 years is a must... and for me, personally, I have to go every year!  Just to get my fix!  I am a disney fanatic!  I've stayed at all of the Disney properties and find that I do have a few favorites --- Grand Floridian, Disney's Boardwalk Villas, Wildness Lodge and the new villas at Animal Kingdom.  (Yes... I am worse than the kids!) I actually wrote a whole blog about the Mouse!

For complete grown up time --- Napa Valley... beautiful, peaceful, relaxing and not to mention wine.  Two of my favorite spots for sharing a glass of vino and watching the sunset - Auberge' du Soleil and Solange Calistoga Resort... both located off Silvarado Trail.  It simply does NOT get any better.  Did I mention the wine?  Two recent finds that really impressed me - Raymond Estates Crystal Room - do the DIVINE experience and Rubicon Estates.  Rubicon is one of the most gorgeous properties in the Valley.   My overall favorite tasting - Sawyer.  (They simply do not have one single bad wine!)

One of the best travel trips I've taken was to Savannah, Georgia.   Midnight of Garden and Evil Tour is a MUST.   Eating at The Pink House, another must.   Yum.   Another favorite, Asheville/Blowing Rock in North Carolina. Something special about the Blue Ridge Mountains and make sure you tour the home of the Vanderbilts - The Biltmore.   Best general store in the land - MAST General Store.  

Another simply livin that I cannot live without is my KEURIG.   What a discovery and the best part of waking up... each and every day.  I love the simplicity, ease and all of the different flavors at my fingertips at any given moment of every day.   When I first got mine, they were relatively unknown... now... they are all the rage!

Sports!  I am a sports enthusiast!  Love me some college football, particularly SEC football... and my beloved Ole Miss Rebels.   I love pro football and was estatic when the lock-out finally came to an agreement.  New York Giants, New Orleans Saints are both my faves, although I do find myself pulling for Peyton at times.   MLB Baseball... the Yankees and Cardinals.   I'm not an avid fan of basketball, but find myself watching during the play-offs.

My favorite thing to relax... hot stone massages, which ironically is humorous considering many years ago, my first experience was absolutely terrifying. Just ask my best friend about my time at the Arlington in Hot Springs, AR and Bertha.  I promise it would be great for a laugh or two... probably twenty!  My favorite spa is located in Las Vegas at the Venetian - Canyon Ranch.   I'm also a big fan of Qua at Caesars.  

Another thing on my "Simply Livin" list one of my all time favorite television shows.  I hardly ever really watch tv, but I am 100% addicted to NCIS.   I have watched from day one... and find it to be one of the most compelling shows on television.  Somehow, I find myself relating to all of the characters and even find that some of my friends relate to them as well.   Great television!

I believe that everyone should make a list of all of their favorite things... and relish the memories.  Sharing with others is the best referral you could give.   For me, it simply doesn't get any better than sharing special moments with special people in your life.   I've been blessed to have had that opportunity and each time, I take a deep breath and know that in this moment, I am "SIMPLY LIVIN".

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What First Impression Do You Make?

This week, I'm on a crusade for first impressions.   I guess its' been on my mind since my last plane ride.   There were many times when you sat in first class and the folks around you were very well dressed businessmen and women who actually took time to dress.  Nowadays, I am shocked that some people actually wear some of the things that they do out in public and they are sitting in first class.   Maybe it's not fair to judge a book by it's cover, but, isn't there such a thing as common sense?  

To me, a first impression is the last impression.   I realize that many people don't believe in it while others feel very strongly about it.   I am one of those people who feel that making a good first impression is one way to open doors to opportunities and have long lasting relationships.  I guess I just feel like it's hard to recover from a bad first impression because the image is already built up in your mind.    


When you go out into the world to make your own way, life is an adventure and you never know who you're going to meet or how they may impact your life somewhere down the line. If you go about your daily life without ever caring what you look like or smell like, then in all likelihood, success is not going to cross your path anytime soon.    If you take time each and every day to actually care about your appearance, then chances are you'll be taken a bit more serious and you'll actually feel better about it.   Who knows who the person sitting next to you on the airplane might be?  

Many years ago,  (during my first career), I had conversations with several of my colleagues on first impressions.   At the time, I was doing a number of interviews and honestly, I was shocked at some of the appearances.  What really made it difficult was the fact that those who were applying for positions were more than qualified for the job - so, it was something that I really couldn't comprehend.   I'm not saying that you should go out and spend boo-koodles of dollars on something new every time you have an interview or important event, but what I am saying, is that in my personal opinion - taking time to be groomed, pressed clothing and making the effort goes a long way.

Traveling can be tiring and I certainly understand the need to be comfortable, but in today's society, you can actually dress up jeans.   You don't have to look like you just rolled out of bed and never picked up the comb.   (And yes, I am one of those people who is afraid to go out running errands without getting fully dressed because I'm worried of who's going to see me. )  Yes, I have done it and every time, I run into someone and feel so embarrassed that I have on my favorite run-down t-shirt and such.

In business, I have found that when you are dressed and groomed, you are taken more seriously.   I know that clothes don't define a person, but again, if you lose them with the first impression, you aren't likely to gain them back, regardless of how good you are at what you do.   I have always found that by putting my best foot forward in every meeting has allowed me the opportunity to let people get to know me and it made developing a relationship easier.   I recently read an article where experts were saying  that when you go in a meeting and talk to a new person, within a few seconds of your meeting you have been assessed. This assessment can be even at a glimpse.

Isn't it true of yourself that when you look at people for the  first time, you evaluate their appearance, behaviors,  ways and styles; each and every thing from head to toe.   Aren't you watching  conduct, characteristics, body-gestures and even grooming and outfits?   From  accessories like jewelry, watch, and even their briefcase?

Within a few moments of your first glimpse you have a  long lasting image of the other person.   Either that person has won you over or you may be disheartened.  We live in a much more relaxed society than we once did and with the uncertain economic times, it's easy to get depressed and not care.  I guess the reality is when you stop caring, you are holding your ownself back from success.   Sometimes, when I'm down and don't feel like getting dressed... I know that my whole disposition is different.   We all go through days where we just want to stay in our pj's and spend the day lounging around.  (And isn't that exactly what we do on those days... lounge around?)   Should we take this attitude when we travel?  When we have an important meeting? If nothing else, shouldn't we have some respect for others and just take time to look appropriate? 

I guess I reflect on the people that I have always taken 2 or 3 looks at and thought to myself, wow, they are successful or... to the other spectrum... what on earth were they thinking?   You either have a warm, fuzzy feeling about someone from their first impression or you immediately think, they need to get a life.   (Don't say that you haven't done it... we all have done it!)

Isn't it worth the time and effort each and every day because yes, first impressions do make a difference.    What first impression do you make?   Take a few moments and ponder it, your answer might shock you.  

Are You Stopping to Smell the Roses?

Our lives are passing us by and we aren't brave enough to simply stop... and smell the roses.  We are so busy that we wouldn't recognize the smell of a rose if it slapped us in the face.     We find that 24 hours in a day are just not enough.   Does this sound familiar?  

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about my career, my family and most of all my friends.   As I look back over the last 20 something years, I think, where has the time gone?     For many of those years, I confess, that I was a self-made workaholic.   My days were filled with an obsessiveness toward work that I realize now was unhealthy.   I know that those days impacted not only me, but my family and my friends.   Work ruled me. 

I think at one time or another, we have all often questioned whether or not we made the right decisions and wonder how our lives would be different if we had took an alternate route.   I'm a believer that everything happens for a reason, so wherever I end up, I know that is simply how its supposed to be.   As I've gotten older (and hopefully much wiser), I realize that taking time to simply stop and enjoy life was something that I was missing.  Working 24 hours a day is not going to change the outcome regardless of what I had instilled in my brain.  I've tried to change that mentality over the last 3 years because sometimes things happen in our lives that allow us the opportunity to open a window and look out and get a new perspective.    

In today's world of communication, there are so many ways to communicate, but are we still too busy to take the time and do it on a consistent basis?   Are we still too busy to realize that our most important assets are relationships?   I guess I have mellowed as time as passed.   I see the world through different glasses now and know that life is short and that anything can happen.   If someone calls me or texts me, I need to stop.. and respond because it could be the last phone call or text that they send.   We have no way of knowing what will happen next or when our number will be called, but what we do know is that our lives are so much better because of the people in them.

Living life each day to the fullest should be everyone's motto.   There is a place for work, our family and our friends.  It's up to us to make room for all of them.   It takes effort and an understanding that sometimes our days aren't all going to be the same and that we have to adjust and adapt to the changes in them.   We have to remind ourselves that if we don't stop and smell the roses, we are missing out on some of life's greatest pleasures.  

I know it sounds hokey or maybe it sounds unrealistic.   I was once there... in that place where there were no windows or doors.   I felt the world on my shoulders and carried the burden of making it to the top and being successful.  I felt 24 hours simply were not enough time to get all the things done on my task list.  I gave and gave and gave and in the end... I really don't know that it made a difference.   I realized a long time ago, money doesn't buy you happiness and it definitely doesn't define who you are in life.    Once I released the burden of being a workaholic and opened the windows and allowed life to truly get a good look at me, I found a freedom that I embraced.   

I don't want to mislead that I don't still work.  I do.  I definitely work and I work hard.  I still have a tremendous passion for where I want to end up in my career.  I know that I want to enjoy every single thing that I do and I am working toward that goal.    But, now... when my phone rings or I get a text -- I stop and make time for the person on the other end.  I'm now making time to be with friends and share life experiences more and to enjoy the smell of those roses.  My life is healthier now and I'm happier.   I still have challenges (boy, do I have challenges) but, I've pushed those aside and decided to really focus on what's important - my relationships.  

When is the last time you smelled the roses?   Life is short.   You never know,  when, you won't be able to pick up the phone or text and have that person on the other end.     Is it really worth it?  I realize my perspective might be somewhat skewed.  After the loss of both of my parents, within 6 months of each other, I felt empty.  (I still do).  Losing them made me realize that nothing is for certain and you should never take each day we are given on this earth for granted.  Instead, we should embrace it as well as those who are in it with us.   Are you too busy for those you love?

 

Same old dog... a bunch of new tricks!

About a year ago, I posted this blog in another situation.  As I found myself reflecting on new opportunities, I found myself led back to it... and taking time to revise it and re-write it, I found that it still fits everything I am feeling today.    I recently watched the movie, The Company Men starring Ben Affleck, Kevin Costner, Tommy Lee Jones and others.   It hit home in many ways.  It allowed me to take a good hard look at myself and where I want to be... and to reach deep inside to discover what I truly wanted in regards to my career as well as what's really important in life.   It's funny, how at the oddest times, we relate to a movie, a song or book... that moves us to the point of finally taking chances on ourselves.   

How many times have you heard the phrase, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”?   When starting on any new journey, whether personal or professional... you always have some apprehension.  Butterflies that seem to appear when you least expect them... although at times, they can be caused from excitement and anticipation.   In my own personal situation, leaving a job 3 years ago that I loved and launching myself into a whole new arena was frightening and yet, I knew at the time, it was definitely the right direction I needed to take.   Sitting here, 3 years later, I absolutely know that it was the right decision.    I knew going into a new situation that there would be areas of expertise that I did not have nor felt I would ever have, but, I also felt that I could gain enough knowledge to learn enough to get by or surround myself with enough people who did have the expertise.   We don't always make the right decisions and when we realize that we have made a bad one, we have to be strong enough to admit it and get back on the right path.   

It can be quite scary embarking on a new adventure.    Where to begin?   How do you find your niche that allows you to become a viable entity in a new market or to continue to be relevant in an industry that you still wanted to be part of - just in a new way.   For me,    as I began the process of launching my consulting company… this old proverb came to mind endless times and … there were days, when I would ask myself could this really be true?  Am I too old to learn something new?   Will I be able to have any success going forward?  The questions were endless.     I thought that I had found the answers a year or so ago... only to discover, that I was wrong.   I was angry with myself for allowing myself to believe in something that did not come to fruition in the way that I had expected or believed.   I realize now, that without risks, we don't learn.  Without learning, we remain the same.   In hindsight, everything happens for a reason and even though the answers I thought I had were wrong, I've learned some valuable insights along the way.   I am still seeking the answers, but feel I am on the right path to gaining them.   

I have found that the answer is simple to the old proverb...…no, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but you can teach him alternative ways of doing the ones he already knows.   My journey has allowed me to take the things that I already knew and find a way of adapting and making them work in a new situation.  Sales are sales… no matter what you are selling and my philosophy has always been sell yourself, sell your company and then finally, sell your product.  Marketing is marketing… keep the messaging simple, on target  with your audience and don’t be afraid to try something new.   Relationships are still the most viable way to get things done in any situation, so hold them close and know that they are your most valuable asset.  Being old, doesn't mean being worn out.   I've often heard many who changed careers mid-stream, mid-life say that the first year afterwards was the scariest of their lives.   I absolutely understand that feeling.   I found that what helped me the most was surrounding myself with the right people has made all the difference in the world.   People who know the business or situation you're trying to get into and learning from them and understanding how to take your own area of expertise and apply their knowledge to it can help propel you into a brand new arena with success.     So, with these things that I did know… I’ve taken a step back… and just re-adjusted the them to fit my new arena.   Wherever my path takes me, I know that regardless of how I get there, I'm not too old to try.   I'm not too old to learn and I am certainly not too old to have the enthusiasm and energy needed to create and find success.   

After breaking it down… the journey did not seem nearly as scary and I found that… maybe the old proverb was just a way of providing an excuse for those who don’t want to try.   And for those of you, who like me contemplate change and reaching for your own happiness  - my word of advice is that without taking risk you won't ever know what could be... without dreaming and reaching for the stars, you'll never achieve the one thing that could completely fulfill your life.   At times, I've been afraid and taken the safe route.   I realize now, I was letting myself down by not going for what I truly wanted.   Every day, I become more familiar with my dreams and goals.   I work diligently to stay true to myself and to understand what it is I truly seek.   When, I'm feeling like my time has come and gone,  I take it one step at a time.  I reflect on all the great successes I've had and look forward to those I've yet to meet.   Challenges will come and go, but it's the hunt in finding the perfect one for me that keeps me motivated.  

So next time someone tells me… you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… I think I’ll smile and say… SURE, you can!